Each one of us has unique struggles in life. We may not notice it, but there are people who struggle more than we do. Hence, they say, the struggle is real. As teachers, we should help to navigate other’s struggles and bring comfort through words. Keep reading this page and get inspired by the things you should say for someone who is struggling.
‘Where there is no struggle, there is no strength.” – Oprah Winfrey
Predicaments. Worries. Problems. They are a common denominator of why people struggle and our students aren’t exempted from this limbo.
I believe that great teachers never run out of delightful and uplifting words to help others especially their students to cope up with struggles and help them get through adversities. I am sharing this on behalf of the teachers, as I am, by profession.
You may not be the solution but at least you can show them the way by bringing enlightenment. I know that it’s also difficult to find the right words to say, but if you’re sincere with your intention to help ease out someone’s difficulties, this article can somehow guide your thoughts.
How do you gather genuine caring thoughts of concern?
Emotions are delicate when someone is troubled. Hence, you have to choose your words carefully so as not to deepen the wounds of anxiety and uncertainties. Try the world of empathy and experience the world of another person. Feel his or her emotions. Be in someone’s shoes and feel his or her agony.
But if you’re just listening to gather information as the foundation of gossip, then just close the book and never open it. However, if you are willing to listen intently, then read other’s stories with the willingness to reflect in the end.
If you were in such a situation, how would you feel? Scenes like this can help you craft your sound pieces of advice and inspiring words.
Get started and be with someone who is struggling be it your students, your loved ones, or colleagues.
Inspiring Things You Should Say for Someone Who Is Struggling
Adopt the simplest way of inspiring people who are experiencing misfortunes in their lives.
1. To a student who has learning difficulties
If some of your students have difficulty learning and processing content due to various reasons, as their teacher, you should act as their inspiration. Your words of encouragement will serve as their strength when things in the classroom won’t come their way.
You can do it!
I trust you! I know you can do better next time.
You make a difference.
I like your idea.
Your efforts are appreciated.
I can see your improvement.
Thank you for working hard.
It’s great! You are doing well, but you can still improve this if…
Please, please, never give false hopes by exaggerating your appreciation. Just talk real and never hurt your students’ feelings because they are human beings of delicate emotions. What they need is your understanding, acceptance, and compassion.
2. To a student who fails the test
It’s a common situation in the classroom when students flunk the test although some really ace your tests. I know because I am a teacher too. So, what do you usually say if a student fails the test? I know you won’t scream in exhaustion and frustration. Remember, there are different factors to be considered with regard to students’ performance.
So, what do you say? Would you say it’s all right? No, it’s not making the child feel better but you are instead giving him or her the attitude to do things without exerting effort because you said it’s just all right.
Good teachers always have plans for students who are struggling in their classes. If things don’t go well as planned they have plans B, C, etc.. When test papers seem to bleed red ink, good teachers don’t freak out.
“I’ll give you remediation on these competencies. I know you can do better this time.”
“Which items are difficult? What went wrong? I always believed that you can try harder.”
“If you are good with these items, you can also do the same with other items.”
“You can learn from your mistakes.”
“I can see you are good, there’s always room for improvement.”
What made me say that? Because I analyzed the items of the test and checked out on which items did the student fail..So, I tried to hit it bull’s eye.
3. To a student with low self-esteem
Some of our students struggle because they are not confident enough. And because words are powerful, you can use them to boost your students’ self-esteem. By telling them encouraging words, you are helping them see the positive avenues of failure and the space for self-improvement.
Believe in yourself, if others can, why can’t you?
You are an awesome learner.
I’m so proud of your efforts.
See? You did a great job!
I know you have great ideas.
You are creative!
You can be a leader.
You have potential.
I know you can get this done.
You can really help children become better students. The way you treat them and your words of encouragement affect their whole being. Inspire confidence in your students and see how they’ll improve.
4. To a colleague who struggles at work
The world of teaching is overwhelming that even the seasoned ones experience difficulties and have through hard times. At times, you experience it yourself so you can easily relate to our colleagues who are having difficult times at work.
Moreover, if someone is struggling at work be it emotional, mental, or in any other aspect, your encouraging words can give light and hope. Your kind words can serve as meaningful support to your colleague who is hurting and troubled.
A sincere conversation with an act of listening can somehow lessen dizzying emotions and make someone better. You can encourage someone to go on and be tough by saying:
I am here. I am willing to help.
You are an important part of the school.
Your ideas are good.
I am always willing to listen.
You can always come to me and share your sentiments.
Your innovations help.
I know you can handle things by and by.
I was also like that when I first started. You can get along easily.
I believe in your capabilities and determination.
You are not alone.
I am just here if you are ready to share.
These words are simple, yet they carry meaning which is truly uplifting and encouraging. I know that being sensitive to what others are feeling can help us identify if someone is overwhelmed, worried, or troubled. You just have to be selfless because you can’t understand how others struggle if you are just always considering yourself at all times.
Others need you as much as you need them. Talk to them and somehow ease out the burden and help them feel better. Make them realize that there’s somebody who is willing to listen and help them step forward.
5. To a colleague who is depressed
Depression can happen to anyone. It can happen to our students, to us, or to our fellow teachers. It’s the time when someone feels like the whole world is against them. Then, let them know that you care and that they are not alone.
By reminding them that they matter and that they are appreciated and loved can make them feel good. Your great efforts in making them feel valuable will somehow ease out their personal hurdles. It is incredibly satisfying to help someone who is on the edge of emotional pain and sorrow.
Be careful with words because when you try to help. In other words, you should be aware of how they are feeling. Therefore, you should know what to say and what not to. Conversing with your fellow teacher who is depressed needs uplifting vocabulary to alleviate the sadness and pain.
Your sincere words can incredibly give hope and convey a sense of optimism. Hence, finding the appropriate words is imperative. And I know it’s not easy. But, if you feel their pains and burdens, you can heartily say:
I’m here for you.
You can open up to me, I’m here to listen.
Don’t worry, there is always hope.
You are not alone in your journey.
Pray harder and believe in God.
Do you need someone to talk to?
Cheer up and think of the brighter things in life.
I’m here to talk about it.
I care for you.
I understand how you are feeling.
It’s all about sharing wonderful thoughts with compassion, love, and care. You don’t have to be verbose or poetic in your dialog. Just be your most compassionate self and your fellow teacher will feel your sincerity and presence.
Additionally, by reaching out, he/ she will feel that they are important and appreciated. This gives them an assurance that everything will be fine and that the darkness will pass.
Reach out, make a call or find the perfect time to approach and choose words that are helpful to hear. Make the person realize that there’s always someone whom he or she can lean on.
Most importantly, listen sympathetically when the sharing happens.
6. To a loved one who has an illness
Nothing is more painful than seeing your loved ones incredibly in pain. Giving them comfort through ‘get well-wishes’ and inspiring words can somehow make them better.
By being sensitive to what and how they feel can give them hope that they will get better the soonest time. Moreover, our warm words will go a long way in making them feel fine and energetic once more.
The more personal your message is, the more it’s appreciated. Here are upbeat thoughts that lessen the burden of someone who is ill or injured.
How are you feeling? I hope everything will be fine.
How are you today?
I wish you well.
Get well soon.
I miss you.
I am including your fast recovery in my prayers.
You get better every day.
I know you are strong and you can beat this one.
I love you dearly.
Get stronger and be as awesome as before.
If one of your students gets sick, you should take time to send your uplifting messages via call, video call, or send get-well cards. Again, it’s more inspiring if you write it by yourself and make the thoughts more personal.
We all miss you here in school.
We miss your funny jokes.
I know you are strong, my dear.
Your classmates are waiting for you.
Don’t worry, I will help you catch up with the lessons you missed.
Always smile and be happy because many love you dearly.
7. To a friend who lost a job
Figuring out what to say to a friend who has just been fired from his or her job isn’t easy. You have to carefully choose your words to extend support and empathy.
If someone is being laid off, you have to feel his or her real emotions of inadequacies. Hence, your uplifting words being conveyed wholeheartedly will make sense.
I appreciate your worth, just persevere.
There’s still hope. It’s not the end of everything.
I believe in your skills and capabilities.
I’m just here and I’m willing to listen.
You can overcome this one soon, don’t worry.
There are many opportunities for you.
I can help you look for new opportunities.
You have a lot of talents and I believe in you.
Your skillset is amazing.
This is part of life, I know you can cope up.
Be an instrument of inspiration
Hopefully, the warm words shared on this page will regulate mood and uplift someone’s spirit. By understanding how someone who is struggling might be feeling is an easy way to craft your messages and to consider your thoughts.
Your warm words of concern can make a difference and make one realize that struggles are part of our existence and make life worth living. Empathizing means giving motivation and inspiration from the heart. Each one of us is capable of inspiring someone with difficulties.
Just remember that your words can either make people happier, better, or even more troubled. So, if your words aren’t positive and if you just mean to criticize, just don’t say it. However, if you are to give advice then it should be with an air of acceptance or constructive criticism.
Have you inspired someone? How do you feel? What are the things you say to help someone struggling to stay optimistic?